Sleeping with two cousins

Dear Pastor,

I am 27 and I have been looking around for a wife. I was in Jamaica and I rented a car to go around with some of my old schoolmates.

I met a girl. She was well dressed, and she stopped my vehicle and asked me for a ride. She said she was 19. She looked so good. We became good friends. I invited her to the hotel where I was staying, but she said she would meet me somewhere else. I met with her the following day, and she told me that she would not be able to see me all the time because she has a boyfriend, and he wants to know where she is 24/7. Anyhow, I invited her to the beach and she said I would have to buy her a bathing suit. So I took her to the store and bought her a two-piece suit; then I took her to my hotel.

I told her to try on the bathing suit. She went into the bathroom and changed and came out for me to see it. When I saw how lovely she looked, my knees got weak. The girl has lovely breasts. Any normal man would lust after them. I started to play with them and she did not resist or object, so I carried on and then she asked me if I had protection, which I didn't. We purchased some and we bought some beers and chicken. We ate and drank, then she said she wanted to take a shower. We showered together and she wiped me off. It was the easiest young girl that I ever had sex with. While I was doing it, she asked me if I liked it and I told her yes.

But I became suspicious of her, so I questioned her more about her background. I found out that she was only 16. But she said she has been having sex since age 15 and that is how she has learnt to survive. She said her mother knows that she is sexually active. Then she said that she lied about having a boyfriend. She lives with her mother and two siblings. When I saw her on the street that day, she was going for an interview for a weekend job. I got scared, so I asked her to bring me some sort of ID to prove her age. She did so the following day. She is indeed 16. I told her that she is too young for me because I am really looking for a girl I can marry, but I can help her go back to school.

I spent two weeks in Jamaica and I had sex with this girl every day. We only went to the beach once. I asked her if she knew any older girl who would be interested in me and would like to get married. She said yes, she has a cousin who is a Christian. She brought the cousin to the hotel and introduced her. This cousin and I became friends. I know what I did was wrong, but after this girl went out to another interview, her cousin agreed to have sex with me, and we did. So now I have two girls on my hands. The cousin is 22 and she is always telling me that she needs money to pay her rent. Her rent is $23,000, and so far I have paid for two months.

She has one child for a soldier, but he does not take very good care of the child. I cannot tell my 16-year-old girlfriend that I am having sex with her cousin. But she is not costing me as much. I want to get married, but I don't want to marry somebody who already has a child. Please give me your opinion.

Y.M.

Dear Y.M.,

I want you to understand that not all Jamaican girls are as easy to get as these cousins.

You found out early that this 16-year-old girl was lying to you. Perhaps you gave these girls the impression that you are loaded with money, so that they can get as much as they want out of you. You have paid two months' rent for one of them. Use your head. Stop playing around the soldier man's woman, and stop fooling around the teenager.

You know that you will never marry a woman who has a child and this girl is not going to have sex with you for free. Occasionally, you may send money to the teen to help her, but you have already told her that she is too young for you. By the way, sir, it is not a curse on a woman to have a child, so don't condemn any woman who has a child out of wedlock.

Pastor